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Domestic abuse and coercive control support group

An online support group for survivors of domestic abuse and coercive control, whether you're still in the relationship or have left. Abuse isn't always physical: control over money, phones, friends and where you go is abuse too. Here you'll be believed. Please only join from somewhere private where you feel safe. If you're in danger right now, call 911 (or 999 in the UK). For free, confidential help any time: the National Domestic Violence Hotline, 1-800-799-7233 (or text START to 88788); in the UK, the National Domestic Abuse Helpline, 0808 2000 247. This is a guided peer group: there's no host, just people who get it, talking together, with the Heal Kinder guide to welcome everyone and offer talking points. Cameras stay on, so everyone can see who they're talking with; your microphone is your choice. Please be kind, and use Report if anyone makes the room feel unsafe.

Could you start a domestic abuse & coercive control group?

If you've been through domestic abuse & coercive control yourself, you could be the one who opens this space. People searching for support with domestic abuse & coercive control are looking for exactly this: others who understand. A group you start, even once a week, could mean a great deal to them, and they'd be grateful you did.

Hosting is free and simple, you don't need any training to begin (there's a short host course if you'd like it), and you can invite friends who are going through it too.

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Common signs of domestic abuse and coercive control

For information only, not for diagnosing. These are common experiences, not a diagnosis of anyone. If any of this sounds familiar, you're not to blame, and confidential help is available from the helplines below, any time.

Abuse isn't always physical. What people often describe:

If you don't feel safe, free, confidential help is there any time: in the US, the National Domestic Violence Hotline on 1-800-799-7233; in the UK, the National Domestic Abuse Helpline on 0808 2000 247. If you're in danger, call 911 (US) or 999 (UK).