Free · Online · Hosted by a peer with lived experience

Children of Narcissistic Mothers

Every week: Saturdays · 10:00am · 60 minutes
Next session: Sat, Nov 14 · 10:00am (your time zone: Eastern Standard Time)

The damage done to a child from a narcissistic parent is tremendous, the foundations of a human being have been destroyed by the Narcissistic parent in those fundamental years. A mother wound, a father wound or both were created within you and now you have to unpack all your baggage and sort through it and throw away what no longer serves you, the coping mechanisms that kept you safe as a child now keep you prisoner as an adult. Learning to undo and build up what you were never taught is a tough job and sometimes it doesn't feel fair that the healing is all up to you when none of it was your fault. "I'm 36 now and a lot of people think that by 36 you should stop blaming all your problems on your parents, well riddle me this, if you were in a building with a messed up foundation, would you feel safer on the 36th floor?" - GianMarco Soresi A little humor that hits home and might bring a smile to your face.

How it works

Free live video group with 9 spots each session.
A member who has been through it hosts, keeps the group on track and makes sure everyone gets a turn.
Cameras stay on, so everyone can see who's there. Your mic is your choice: talk, or just listen.
Save a spot, or drop in during the first 10 minutes if there's space.
Anyone can privately report someone who makes the room feel unsafe.

Common signs of narcissistic abuse

For information only, not for diagnosing. These are common experiences, not a diagnosis of you or of anyone else. Only a qualified mental health professional can diagnose a personality disorder such as NPD, and only by assessing that person themselves. If this sounds familiar, a counsellor or an abuse support service can help you make sense of what you've been through.

What people who've been through it often describe, in a relationship, family or workplace:

Feeling like you're always walking on eggshells around them
Doubting your own memory or judgement after being told things didn't happen the way you remember (gaslighting)
Lots of attention and praise at first, then criticism and put-downs
Feeling that everything is your fault, and apologising all the time
Being cut off from friends and family, bit by bit
The silent treatment, or affection taken away as a punishment
Your needs and feelings being dismissed, while theirs always come first
Your money, phone or time being watched or controlled
Feeling anxious, numb, or not like yourself any more
Being drawn back in by promises that things will change

If you don't feel safe, free, confidential help is there any time: in the US, the National Domestic Violence Hotline on 1-800-799-7233; in the UK, the National Domestic Abuse Helpline on 0808 2000 247. If you're in danger, call 911 (US) or 999 (UK).

Heal Kinder is peer support: people who've been there, listening and sharing. Many members find it a real help alongside any care they already have, though it isn't therapy or a crisis service. If you are in danger, call 911. In the US you can call or text 988 any time. Outside the US, call your local emergency number (Samaritans 116 123 in the UK).

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